Getting Started as a New Submissive: Lesson 1 - Where Do I Start?

This is Lesson One in our mini-class "Getting Started as a New Submissive." As a student of Submissive Guide, you get exclusive access to this course and its related worksheets and bonuses.

Since you’re here, chances are you’ve thought about relinquishing control to another person, which has piqued your interest or even gotten you turned on. It could be handing over power in the bedroom for kinky sex or exploring the world of bondage and sadomasochism. Perhaps you’re looking for structure and discipline throughout the relationship, not just in the bedroom. Whatever it is, I will help you put names to your desires and organize your needs so that you know where you’re headed. But you may also feel weird about this realization.

I know. It’s like you’ve walked into a classroom as a new student with the "I'm new" sign over your head. Being new is not a bad thing - everyone has been there. No one in the room can say they have never been where you are. You may be feeling a bit uncomfortable because of the negative opinions or unsavory representations of BDSM and submission in the media, the news, or by your own family and friend groups. This may make you hesitant to explore, but I reassure you that stereotypes, misconceptions, and incorrect assumptions cloud those views.

I remember my first baby steps into the world of BDSM and submission as being very cautious and timid. I had just figured out that I’d like to explore submission in the bedroom with my husband, and I felt like all the information I was finding was just… so… much… stuff! How was I supposed to learn all this, share it with my husband without feeling embarrassed, be relaxed, and enjoy what was hopefully going to be a fun, fulfilling, sexy, kinky experience? And let’s face it, the internet has way more information on it now than it did then!