Ask Subguide - How do I ask to be collared?
Question: How do I ask to be collared?
Answer:
Collaring isn’t a one-size-fits-all process, and there’s no universal “proper” way to ask for one. Some Dominants prefer to offer a collar when they feel the time is right, while others expect a submissive to express their desire for one. The key is open communication.
If you want to be collared, consider approaching it like a relationship milestone—similar to discussing exclusivity or even a proposal. Here are a few ways to bring it up:
A Direct Conversation: Simply express your feelings: "I am deeply committed to you and our dynamic. Have you considered collaring me?"
A Thoughtful Request: Please share why the collar is meaningful to you and how you see it symbolizing your submission.
A Formal or Playful Approach—If your dynamic involves ritual or protocol, you might write a heartfelt letter or even "beg" if that fits your relationship style.
If your Dominant expects you to ask but hasn’t shared how, don’t hesitate to seek clarification: “I’d love to honor your expectations. How would you like me to approach this?”
Remember, a collar is a symbol of commitment, not just an accessory. The conversation should reflect the depth of your connection, not just be a formality.
Here are some links to resources on collars and collaring ceremonies where you will find more valuable tips:
What it Means to be Collared by LadySneak
Good luck, and congrats!
—lunaKM
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