Ask Subguide - How Can You Reduce the Appearance of Marks and Bruises After Play?
Question: I was wondering if there is anything that can be done to minimize the appearance of bruises and marks after rough play. I am very Irish and my skin is just this shade of death warmed over/ goth girl dream. This makes every mark stand out like a billboard and I get marked VERY easily. I work in a very conservative environment, so we try to keep marks to places that can easily be covered. That doesn’t always work and it limits our play field greatly in the warmer months because I live in a hellishly humid place in summer. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.
Answer:
You're not alone, friend. Some of us bruise if the wind blows wrong—and while we wear our BDSM play marks like badges of pleasure and pride, the world isn’t always ready to see them.
✨ First step: Prevention
Stick to impact zones easily hidden by everyday clothing—upper thighs, buttocks, and back are classic choices. But we know that gets tricky in summer when short sleeves and lighter fabrics reign. If you’re playing during warmer months, plan ahead with wardrobe coverage in mind.
🧴 Aftercare options to reduce bruising:
Arnica gel or cream: Many kinksters swear by it. While the science is hit-or-miss, the act of gently rubbing it in can help stimulate circulation—just like massage.
Massage: Use steady, gentle pressure around the bruise (not directly on it at first). This helps your body reabsorb pooled blood more quickly.
Cold compress immediately after impact: This can slow blood flow to the area and reduce the size of a developing bruise.
Warm compresses after 24-48 hrs: These help speed healing once the bruise has set in.
🎨 Need to cover up?
Makeup is your friend! Body foundations or concealers like The Right to Bare Legs or Dermablend are made for coverage, water-resistant, and transfer-proof when set. Top with translucent powder or setting spray for extra staying power—even in humidity.
💡 Bonus tip:
Small marks can be explained away easily if noticed—“Oh, I bumped into the dresser again” is usually enough. Add a bandage or clothing layer and most people won’t give it a second thought.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to protect your privacy. Discretion is a form of self-care, too. 💜
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